Love Addictions: Driving Under the Influence

Sometimes it’s hard to be an observer, an innocent bystander. Especially when it seems like you’re watching a car crash in slow motion, but you just can’t stop it. It deeply disturbs you and your heart is immediately connected to the parties involved, even before the full impact is felt by them. In the same way, it’s extremely unsettling to give a friend counsel when he or she is in denial of their current role as one of the drivers in one of these pending automobile accidents.

Relationship DUI’s are often committed while being caught up in a whirlwind of infatuation. It’s interesting to see how drastically things can change when you’re under the influence of just one person. And unfortunately, being above this influence is being at a place where many people feel totally alone and insecure for lack of affection and belonging. These DUI’s are one effect of a greater problem, which are the love addictions that will forever plague some drivers.

Many people mistake a love addiction for a life direction, and a large majority of these people mistake direction for happiness. They define themselves with the help of this direction that is rooted in compromise. The harsh reality remains that there is never a good time to be yourself, alone, absent of others to help define you. Some think that the small doses of love that they are swallowing will serve to take the edge off their loneliness. What they don’t realize is that, in taking the edge off, they can no longer be edgy. In losing their edge, they lose what makes them an individual. They can no longer be defined by the sum of their own parts, but rather must be combined with another person’s parts to create a whole entity. And that’s just lame.

Or maybe these people are just sacrificing their sobriety for something more, something more complex and fulfilling. No, that can’t be it!

I actually believe that this kind of substance abuse problem has little substance to it. But if being consumed by a temporary solution is what gets these people through the next month, I say drink up!

Meanwhile, I’ll be taking part in my love addiction of choice! The source of my addiction loves me for me, and doesn’t ask me to change anything about myself!

And that’s PROOF enough that it's a love worth pursuing!